“When you confront a problem, you begin to solve it.” –Rudy Giuliani-
I want to be open and be able to express myself that you have hurt me, and that I didn't like what you've done or said about me.
As I grow up, as time passed by, I've realized that you limit yourself with what you can become; you make your world smaller if you decide to avoid the problem, if you choose to keep silent and if you choose not to say what you feel.
I admit, I had my immature days. During those times, I have chosen to distance myself from the people whom I thought have hurt me. I had this thinking that I can’t allow them to hurt me over and over again. I didn't find out if them hurting me was intentional or if it was just me who was close-minded or sensitive that I failed to let them know what I was really felt. I chose not to discuss it and let time passed by with pride and bitterness over me. It took years for me to forget that sadness and it took years for all the wounds to heal. Well, I am happy now. All is well. Time helped me outgrew the pain. I don’t want to feel that feeling again. It’s not healthy.
I want peace and harmony. I am not getting any younger and I don’t want to get old having hang ups or resentments in my heart. Life is too short to waste over thinking things that really don’t matter.
As much as possible, I try to express myself and be honest with my feelings. It’s not easy. It’s not something that I do right away or immediately after I get offended or hurt. It is still a process. But what I’ve learned is you can’t let that bad feelings or that hurt stay in your heart for long, because for all you know your interpretations maybe wrong. The person you have been indifferent for a while, may not even have any idea that they have hurt you.
It’s never easy to say what you feel, especially if the person involved is someone close to you, more importantly if they have hurt you right? Sometimes we get to think its better left unsaid and forget about it, but sometimes we tend to always remember the pain right? So I think, trust and comfortability should always come into play when situation like this arises.
If you let them know what you feel, then they would understand you better. They may even realize that they should not do it again what they have done to you because you don’t like it or because you simply get hurt over it.
So, learn to express yourself with humility. It’s not always the person who have hurt you who is at wrong, you too have your flaws, but letting your heart speaks will make it easier for you. Embrace positive vibes, value relationships. Don’t let yourself be driven by resentment and anger.
“Resentment always hurt you more than it does the person you resent. While your offender has probably forgotten the offense and gone on with life, you continue to stew in your pain, perpetuating the past... Those who have hurt you in the past cannot continue to hurt you now unless you hold on to the pain through resentment... Past is past, nothing will change it. You are only hurting yourself with your bitterness” - Purpose Driven Life, Day 3.
I want to be open and be able to express myself that you have hurt me, and that I didn't like what you've done or said about me.
As I grow up, as time passed by, I've realized that you limit yourself with what you can become; you make your world smaller if you decide to avoid the problem, if you choose to keep silent and if you choose not to say what you feel.
I admit, I had my immature days. During those times, I have chosen to distance myself from the people whom I thought have hurt me. I had this thinking that I can’t allow them to hurt me over and over again. I didn't find out if them hurting me was intentional or if it was just me who was close-minded or sensitive that I failed to let them know what I was really felt. I chose not to discuss it and let time passed by with pride and bitterness over me. It took years for me to forget that sadness and it took years for all the wounds to heal. Well, I am happy now. All is well. Time helped me outgrew the pain. I don’t want to feel that feeling again. It’s not healthy.
I want peace and harmony. I am not getting any younger and I don’t want to get old having hang ups or resentments in my heart. Life is too short to waste over thinking things that really don’t matter.
As much as possible, I try to express myself and be honest with my feelings. It’s not easy. It’s not something that I do right away or immediately after I get offended or hurt. It is still a process. But what I’ve learned is you can’t let that bad feelings or that hurt stay in your heart for long, because for all you know your interpretations maybe wrong. The person you have been indifferent for a while, may not even have any idea that they have hurt you.
It’s never easy to say what you feel, especially if the person involved is someone close to you, more importantly if they have hurt you right? Sometimes we get to think its better left unsaid and forget about it, but sometimes we tend to always remember the pain right? So I think, trust and comfortability should always come into play when situation like this arises.
If you let them know what you feel, then they would understand you better. They may even realize that they should not do it again what they have done to you because you don’t like it or because you simply get hurt over it.
So, learn to express yourself with humility. It’s not always the person who have hurt you who is at wrong, you too have your flaws, but letting your heart speaks will make it easier for you. Embrace positive vibes, value relationships. Don’t let yourself be driven by resentment and anger.
“Resentment always hurt you more than it does the person you resent. While your offender has probably forgotten the offense and gone on with life, you continue to stew in your pain, perpetuating the past... Those who have hurt you in the past cannot continue to hurt you now unless you hold on to the pain through resentment... Past is past, nothing will change it. You are only hurting yourself with your bitterness” - Purpose Driven Life, Day 3.